It has been said that when we find ourselves facing a physical obstacle, our response time comes from years of exposure to certain scenarios and from a place of experience. The shorter the wait time on the response, the more approvals you get to garner from your acquaintances and subordinates as being socially present and you are deemed socially respectable and successful. But, there are certain attributes to this whole picture that one parent has to realise before their kids step out into the world. Learning to use actions and words that reflect the ‘sociable states’ of their minds, the awareness of our surroundings and the various ‘teaching’ apprehensions, all can be derived from having a keen social awareness that is embodied into your child in their early years, maybe as early as the ages of 3 or 4.
We learn how to communicate, how to narrate, how to build relationships and how to defend ourselves from a very young age. In fact, we’ve been made to believe by our parents that running away from any sort of over-spontaneous or critical situation isn’t the right way to do things. Our response to those circumstances should come natural to us over the period of years.
Naturally though, in the initial days of developing social awareness came developing realistic and grounded social skills, you can always think back to your early childhood outdoor environments and try to remember the first friend you made. A lot of parents go through an indecent number of books and videos to learn better ways to give their kids proper instructions. ‘How not to say or do anything inappropriate’ or ‘how to express feelings in the right way’ are one of the things they want to know first.
Your kids don’t entirely depend on you to learn how to treat people. When they engage in outdoor activities, some of the most notable benefits are not only expressing one’s self correctly and not mistreating, but also learning ways to deal with disappointment, in the event of losing a game. They learn to wait for their turn and behave more organized while they also understand the concept of playing fairly, sharing and paying attention.
Now, the next step would be to set-up playdates for your kids and stock up on interactive games that a group of three or four can play and would like to play. If you’re looking for cheap options and game ideas, check this out. It’s a giant inflatable bowling ball set.
We understood from such playtime exchanges that they were bonding over bowling, something that they usually see grown-ups engaging in and it immediately strikes them as a game they’d play while trying their best to maintain the rules of the actual game, because almost every child likes to imitate a grown up at some point. These kids were learning in fact a little more than good social skills, they’re also learning that there is an order to things. They are also learning how by acting in that unique order, they will be awarded with respect by their peers. This is an example of what having strong social and communicative skills can attribute to.
Another pointer is that involving an outdoor play involving nature and its strong yet calming influence is also a key factor that builds good cognition and awareness in your kids. Interacting and playing with nature, taking small camping trips or lake trips, going to zoos or sanctuaries, the beach or anywhere nature comes in abundance. The point is to make your kids be connected with their own feelings along with also knowing of the ever-changing circumstances and consequences they may face.
Arriving at the present situation, to make sure that your kid still has enough social interaction, your first initiative should be to engage them in educational indoor activities and games, as that too has its own set of separate benefits. Your kids are now more exposed to surroundings at home and if they are above the age of six or seven, you need to involve them in a series of educational yet fun activities that won’t be a total miss. Arrange for parent-child yoga sessions, set up board games, take up small DIY art or science projects, or take things to the next level with virtual playdates.
Overall, make sure that while you build social skills in your child, their individual learning process should remain as natural as it can be, supported by a solid foundation as that is what influences their daily interactions with the people at and outside of their homes.